As I work with women transitioning out of difficult relationships, I hear so many women talk about the pain…the way it tears through you like it is going to rip you apart. I remember going through the end of relationships where it hurt so badly it was a struggle to breathe. You wonder, how you’ll get through it and doubt that you'll make it through. You tell yourself there’s no way anyone can survive this amount of heartbreak.
The longer you sit in pain, the more it builds up. Suddenly, in your mind you are rewriting history. Remembering things as better than they really were. Questioning yourself, your feelings, your choices. Terrified to move forward because you question this as well. Before long you are frozen and have no idea which way to turn. Pain very quickly turns into suffering.
There is a quote that I love that says “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” At some point, we all have to choose out of suffering, even if taking one step...
YOU ARE WORTHY
I’ve noticed a lot of women struggle with the false belief of feeling unworthy.The underlying fear that you aren’t good enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you desire.
This belief gets played out in so many areas of life:
Staying in relationships where you aren’t valued or respected.
Putting everyone else’s needs above your own.
Not taking the time to practice self-care.
Over-working in jobs that rip apart your soul.
Holding back your truth.
Doing things you simply don’t want to be doing.
Long restless nights, incessant thoughts of everything you wish you could change, crying alone knowing you want more, and feeling exhausted and drained.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I can tell you, I was there for longer than I like to admit. I was living a life that didn’t feel good, and for so long, I didn’t know why.
Questions swirled in my head like:
What’s wrong with me?