I am the source of my reality.
I use my voice.
I take up space.
I make my presence known.
It took me a very long time to own this as my truth. To trust in myself enough to know that it is up to me and only me to create my own safety in the world. To understand that I do not ever have to give anyone or anything this sort of power in my life.
And the result… freaking FREEDOM!
I can’t even tell you how much energy I put into staying small and trying to be invisible, thinking that was the best way to keep myself safe. Biting back my opinions, speaking with a softer tone, making sure I didn’t stand out. Blending.
I would notice it in conversations when I would use as few words as possible, in social settings when I would feel myself contract inward and silently observe, when I would ask so many questions about others and divert the topic away from me as soon as possible.
And then I would wonder why I felt so unseen and undervalued. Why I didn’t get noticed or feel...
Do you ever take time to reflect on your life?
When I look back and reflect on mine, the word that comes to my mind is, FULL.
I’ve lived a life full of laughter, joy, sadness, heartbreaks, disappointments, really bad decisions, really good decisions, awful mistakes, and huge lessons. I’ve found my way through impossible situations and overcome things I thought would break me down. I’ve picked myself back up (a few times), learned some really tough, but cool shit, and grown a lot more than I ever thought was possible.
I’ve felt things deeply and profoundly, in the only way my sensitive soul knows how.
For a long time, reflecting on my life was a fancy title for beating myself up. I’d look back and obsess over all the things that I could’ve done differently. My endless thoughts of “what if,” “if only,” and “how could I” played on repeat in my head. It wasn’t that I necessarily had regrets, more that I...
We all experience dark days, I think the term “dark nights of the soul” describes it best. Those spaces in time filled with pain, challenge, heartbreak, grief, and fear. Periods in life when it feels almost impossible to find the light of possibility.
It’s during these days you may notice yourself constricting or closing off, your body and soul instinctively working to protect and conserve itself. These periods of time can be scary and overwhelming, even trick you into believing that you’re somehow failing and there’s something wrong with you. That you will never get to the other side.
The ability to be patient during dark nights of the soul is a vital component for growth and transformation. But, how do you have patience during a time when you want nothing more than time to move quickly?
The answer…Actively engage in the creation of patience.
Patience isn’t a passive activity, or something that just happens to you. Patience, like...
Take a second right now and think of something that you’ve longed for. Something you’ve wanted so badly it may have even hurt. It may have been simple like a hug or appreciation. Or it may have been more complex like a relationship or wealth.
Whatever it is, take a moment to feel into that memory.
I have noticed that most of the time, you long for things from a space of lack or worry. You’re centered in the “not having” and consumed by those feelings. You’re focused on what’s missing.
From this place you are helpless. Questioning your value and worth. Wondering if life has it out for you.
From this place you can only create more of what you don’t have, pulling you further from the things you really do want.
From this place you can feel hopeless, maybe even throw in the towel and give up on your dreams.
I’ve been there and I get it.
I’ve been there and I know there is another way.
You are the source of your reality and the...
Be honest, does this sound like you?
You’re balancing a million things and have little time for yourself.
You have a list a mile long of things you want to do, but no time to do them.
You focus so much on others you forget about yourself.
You’re exhausted and half the time can’t even remember why.
You have all these “important” responsibilities that prevent you from living a joyful and fulfilled life and the day you get to focus on you seems to be moving further away.
Sounds familiar, right?
I spent years filling my days with overwhelm and busyness, never having time sit down and focus on me. These ideas or inspirations would come to me and I'd quickly sweep them away, not having the time to pursue them. I felt stuck, and resigned myself to believe that I was just not meant to live a life I was truly excited and passionate about. After all, there wasn't enough time in a day to complete everything I needed to, plus take...
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...