When you’ve experienced a toxic relationship or gone through a difficult breakup, the thought of loving again can be frightening. After experiencing hurt, the idea of opening your heart and trusting another lover can feel like the equivalent of jumping off a cliff into a bottomless black hole. Doesn’t sound fun at all right?
As human beings though, we are creatures of connection. We thrive on being in partnership with other human beings and especially with a significant other. For most of us, it’s the ultimate human experience and denying this human impulse requires a tremendous amount of energy.
CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW MUCH ENERGY IT COSTS YOU TO ACTIVELY CLOSE YOUR HEART? TO BUILD WALLS AND SOMEHOW KEEP THEM FROM FALLING DOWN?
There’s a part of you that feels scared, and for some of you, it may be a huge part. But there’s also another part of you that longs to love again. That part craves it and knows it’s more than possible.
Can you imagine how...
HAVE YOU EVER LOST SOMEONE YOU LOVE?
Have you experienced a loss so painful, you couldn’t imagine how you’d get through the days?
Suddenly, they’re gone and you’re faced with a reality you never imagined.
HOW DO YOU CONTINUE AND HOW DO YOU SURVIVE?
Many of us have experienced profound loss. Whether through death, divorce, or someone walking out of your life. The aftermath of losing someone can be painful and traumatizing. It can rattle you to the core and knock you down. Make you afraid you’ll never be ok again.
The process of grief is messy, challenging and extremely frightening, leaving you to scramble for anything to make the pain go away.
I’ve been there. A few times actually. I’ve experienced losses that were unimaginable, inescapable and unrelenting. Pain that showed up everywhere I turned. In the smile from a stranger, a hug from a friend, songs on the radio, random words uttered in the midst of a thousand others.
We all experience dark days, I think the term “dark nights of the soul” describes it best. Those spaces in time filled with pain, challenge, heartbreak, grief, and fear. Periods in life when it feels almost impossible to find the light of possibility.
It’s during these days you may notice yourself constricting or closing off, your body and soul instinctively working to protect and conserve itself. These periods of time can be scary and overwhelming, even trick you into believing that you’re somehow failing and there’s something wrong with you. That you will never get to the other side.
The ability to be patient during dark nights of the soul is a vital component for growth and transformation. But, how do you have patience during a time when you want nothing more than time to move quickly?
The answer…Actively engage in the creation of patience.
Patience isn’t a passive activity, or something that just happens to you. Patience, like...
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...
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