HAVE YOU EVER LOST SOMEONE YOU LOVE?
Have you experienced a loss so painful, you couldn’t imagine how you’d get through the days?
Suddenly, they’re gone and you’re faced with a reality you never imagined.
HOW DO YOU CONTINUE AND HOW DO YOU SURVIVE?
Many of us have experienced profound loss. Whether through death, divorce, or someone walking out of your life. The aftermath of losing someone can be painful and traumatizing. It can rattle you to the core and knock you down. Make you afraid you’ll never be ok again.
The process of grief is messy, challenging and extremely frightening, leaving you to scramble for anything to make the pain go away.
I’ve been there. A few times actually. I’ve experienced losses that were unimaginable, inescapable and unrelenting. Pain that showed up everywhere I turned. In the smile from a stranger, a hug from a friend, songs on the radio, random words uttered in the midst of a thousand others.
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Listen to your heart, follow your intuition, what does your gut say? How many times have you heard these statements from others, from yourself? It sounds good, makes sense even, but when it comes down to it, you have no idea what your gut is telling you. You’re conflicted and struggling to make to decisions while multiple voices fight inside your head. Which voice is which and how do you even begin to know how to find the correct one?
I know you’ve been there…a big decision lies in front of you and the more you think about it, the more confused you get. It almost feels like you’re playing mind games with yourself, unable to decipher fear vs. wisdom. In your attempt at clarity, you end up feeling stuck and unsure what step to take to move forward.
Most likely, this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced this and it won’t be the last. The thing is, the longer you ignore your inner wisdom or abandon your true self, the harder it gets to...
YOU ARE WORTHY
I’ve noticed a lot of women struggle with the false belief of feeling unworthy.The underlying fear that you aren’t good enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you desire.
This belief gets played out in so many areas of life:
Staying in relationships where you aren’t valued or respected.
Putting everyone else’s needs above your own.
Not taking the time to practice self-care.
Over-working in jobs that rip apart your soul.
Holding back your truth.
Doing things you simply don’t want to be doing.
Long restless nights, incessant thoughts of everything you wish you could change, crying alone knowing you want more, and feeling exhausted and drained.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I can tell you, I was there for longer than I like to admit. I was living a life that didn’t feel good, and for so long, I didn’t know why.
Questions swirled in my head like:
What’s wrong with me?
We all experience dark days, I think the term “dark nights of the soul” describes it best. Those spaces in time filled with pain, challenge, heartbreak, grief, and fear. Periods in life when it feels almost impossible to find the light of possibility.
It’s during these days you may notice yourself constricting or closing off, your body and soul instinctively working to protect and conserve itself. These periods of time can be scary and overwhelming, even trick you into believing that you’re somehow failing and there’s something wrong with you. That you will never get to the other side.
The ability to be patient during dark nights of the soul is a vital component for growth and transformation. But, how do you have patience during a time when you want nothing more than time to move quickly?
The answer…Actively engage in the creation of patience.
Patience isn’t a passive activity, or something that just happens to you. Patience, like...
Be honest, does this sound like you?
You’re balancing a million things and have little time for yourself.
You have a list a mile long of things you want to do, but no time to do them.
You focus so much on others you forget about yourself.
You’re exhausted and half the time can’t even remember why.
You have all these “important” responsibilities that prevent you from living a joyful and fulfilled life and the day you get to focus on you seems to be moving further away.
Sounds familiar, right?
I spent years filling my days with overwhelm and busyness, never having time sit down and focus on me. These ideas or inspirations would come to me and I'd quickly sweep them away, not having the time to pursue them. I felt stuck, and resigned myself to believe that I was just not meant to live a life I was truly excited and passionate about. After all, there wasn't enough time in a day to complete everything I needed to, plus take...
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...
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