Living “AS IF”….Showing up every single day in alignment with the having of all that you desire, your intention for the future fulfilled.
One of the most important steps in creating the future you desire is to intentionally show up in your everyday life as if the future is in the here and now. Getting so clear not only about what that future looks like, but about who you are being inside of that future.
How you would feel.
How you would think.
How you would interact with others.
How you would engage with life.
Getting crystal clear about all of this and then showing up that way now.
It’s from this place that you are living in abundance and relishing in the experience of the journey. It is from this place that you are able to expand with joy and fulfillment. It is from this place that you can settle into knowing and trust as your journey unfolds.
Like everything else, living “AS IF” is a choice and it requires you to have the courage to be vulnerable...
Anger is real and anger is ok!
How many times have you been told that your anger is wrong?
How many times have you pushed down your anger?
How many times has it been suggested that your anger makes you crazy?
Anger is a real and powerful emotion that holds the energy of fire. Anger is a real and powerful emotion that provides you wisdom. Anger is a real and powerful emotion that must be acknowledged.
Maya Angelou's wisdom says it best...
"You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it."
Anger has the power to motivate you to change.
Anger has the power to empower you to assert boundaries.
Anger has the power to encourage you to use your voice.
Anger expressed is simply another facet of the human experience that can bring you closer...
I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose lately. Thinking about how so many of us struggle to find our purpose, know what our purpose is, and then to live into that purpose consistently. Struggle to know where to even begin.
When we aren’t connected to our purpose, we can feel lost, wandering without a destination. We can feel a sense of unease or even emptiness, unsure of what steps we are meant to be taking in our lives.
And of course, feeling this way can lead to feeling even more disconnected from ourselves and finding our way to that purpose.
As I’ve been thinking about purpose, I’ve been thinking about how massive a question it is. I mean, life purpose, think about that statement, it’s pretty huge. Why are we here? What are we meant to do? What is our very reason for even existing?
No wonder the quest for purpose can feel so overwhelming and so difficult in obtaining.
So, what if we were to see things from a different lens and consider a different...
Are you deeply and profoundly in love with you?
When we think about falling in love, we usually think about falling in love with another person. That human being who is going to be our partner and touch us deeply at the core of our very being. And it truly is magical when you think about it. The flirting, the anticipation, the curiosity, and the discovery. It’s absolutely one of the most amazing human experiences I can think of.
And… so is the experience of falling in love with you. Now, I don’t just mean liking yourself or thinking you’re ok enough. I mean, loving yourself so much that your heart swells with gratitude and appreciation for everything you are and everything you will be. Loving yourself down to the core of who you are, all of you, through to the depths of your soul.
Does this sound silly? Impossible? Am I just an idealist or a romantic? The answer is no, but I understand that you might not want to just take my word for it.
So, I have a...
Confusion is defined by Dictionary.com as disorder; upheaval; tumult; chaos, lack of clearness or distinctness, perplexity, bewilderment.
If you’re breathing, you’ve been confused at one point or another. Perhaps about a relationship, your career, or even your life purpose. I’m also going to guess that being confused felt pretty uncomfortable and frustrating. I mean, take a look at the definition of confusion, who the heck wants to experience that, right?
Having this mindset and belief system about confusion can give you the sensation of being stuck. Feelings like chaos, lack of clarity, and bewilderment can be exhausting and hold you back. Confusion can leave you running around that never ending hamster wheel, spinning and spinning yet getting nowhere.
What if there was another way to look at confusion? What if you could flip your script and create an empowering belief about what it actually means to be confused?
What if you redefined what it means to...
We all experience dark days, I think the term “dark nights of the soul” describes it best. Those spaces in time filled with pain, challenge, heartbreak, grief, and fear. Periods in life when it feels almost impossible to find the light of possibility.
It’s during these days you may notice yourself constricting or closing off, your body and soul instinctively working to protect and conserve itself. These periods of time can be scary and overwhelming, even trick you into believing that you’re somehow failing and there’s something wrong with you. That you will never get to the other side.
The ability to be patient during dark nights of the soul is a vital component for growth and transformation. But, how do you have patience during a time when you want nothing more than time to move quickly?
The answer…Actively engage in the creation of patience.
Patience isn’t a passive activity, or something that just happens to you. Patience, like...
Take a second right now and think of something that you’ve longed for. Something you’ve wanted so badly it may have even hurt. It may have been simple like a hug or appreciation. Or it may have been more complex like a relationship or wealth.
Whatever it is, take a moment to feel into that memory.
I have noticed that most of the time, you long for things from a space of lack or worry. You’re centered in the “not having” and consumed by those feelings. You’re focused on what’s missing.
From this place you are helpless. Questioning your value and worth. Wondering if life has it out for you.
From this place you can only create more of what you don’t have, pulling you further from the things you really do want.
From this place you can feel hopeless, maybe even throw in the towel and give up on your dreams.
I’ve been there and I get it.
I’ve been there and I know there is another way.
You are the source of your reality and the...
Be honest, does this sound like you?
You’re balancing a million things and have little time for yourself.
You have a list a mile long of things you want to do, but no time to do them.
You focus so much on others you forget about yourself.
You’re exhausted and half the time can’t even remember why.
You have all these “important” responsibilities that prevent you from living a joyful and fulfilled life and the day you get to focus on you seems to be moving further away.
Sounds familiar, right?
I spent years filling my days with overwhelm and busyness, never having time sit down and focus on me. These ideas or inspirations would come to me and I'd quickly sweep them away, not having the time to pursue them. I felt stuck, and resigned myself to believe that I was just not meant to live a life I was truly excited and passionate about. After all, there wasn't enough time in a day to complete everything I needed to, plus take...
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...
Welcome! I am so excited you found this blog and I look forward to connecting with you. Take a look around and let me know what you think. I am always open to suggestions, questions, and comments.
My intention is to find ways to be of service to you on your journey through transformation. This blog is one of the many ways I hope I am able to inspire and empower you.
No matter what your story, no matter where you have been... You have the power to create the future you desire and I am here to teach you how!
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With love and joy,
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