Sonnet and Veronica interview Jennifer in this podcast episode titled, "Being Honest About How You're Showing Up in Relationships."
We chat about:
- Shifting your relationships.
- Leading with love and showing up how you want others to show up.
- How to open your heart when you’re frustrated with yourself and with others.
Are you afraid of change?
Would you rather be unhappy than have to face the unknown?
Making the choice to move into uncertainty can bring up a lot of thoughts and emotions. As you sit and consider the future, pictures swirl in your head of all the things that could go wrong and next thing you know, fears get triggered. So much so that you may even decide that changing things up really isn’t worth it. Maybe you can just make the best of what you’ve got.
You aren’t alone with this line of thinking. Most people would prefer to be unhappy in the comfort of their present circumstances, even if they aren’t fulfilled or happy. Safety and familiarity are very tempting and can lure you into a state of numbness. Stay here long enough and you may find it close to possible to move forward.
When you create a habit of facing the unknown with fear, you train yourself to equate change with anxiety and dread. You look for all the things that could go wrong and talk yourself...
Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Jennifer Butler in this lively and fun podcast titled "Access Your Internal Power and Create Better Relationships."
- How I found my passion for coaching.
- My divorce and how it changed my life.
- What Calling in “The One” coaching is all about.
- The only way to live is the way of your heart & your truth.
- Why writing is my creative outlet.
Listen to your heart, follow your intuition, what does your gut say? How many times have you heard these statements from others, from yourself? It sounds good, makes sense even, but when it comes down to it, you have no idea what your gut is telling you. You’re conflicted and struggling to make to decisions while multiple voices fight inside your head. Which voice is which and how do you even begin to know how to find the correct one?
I know you’ve been there…a big decision lies in front of you and the more you think about it, the more confused you get. It almost feels like you’re playing mind games with yourself, unable to decipher fear vs. wisdom. In your attempt at clarity, you end up feeling stuck and unsure what step to take to move forward.
Most likely, this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced this and it won’t be the last. The thing is, the longer you ignore your inner wisdom or abandon your true self, the harder it gets to...
Jimmy Allen interviews Jennifer Butler in this honest and raw conversation about love, relationships, coaching and so much more. Jennifer shares her personal story, including her struggles, fears, and achievements.
In this episode:
- Walking into fears
- The power of Calling in "The One" coaching
- What happens when you transform your false beliefs
- The importance of taking care of your SELF
- Being the creator of your life
- Parenting from this empowered space
YOU ARE WORTHY
I’ve noticed a lot of women struggle with the false belief of feeling unworthy.The underlying fear that you aren’t good enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you desire.
This belief gets played out in so many areas of life:
Staying in relationships where you aren’t valued or respected.
Putting everyone else’s needs above your own.
Not taking the time to practice self-care.
Over-working in jobs that rip apart your soul.
Holding back your truth.
Doing things you simply don’t want to be doing.
Long restless nights, incessant thoughts of everything you wish you could change, crying alone knowing you want more, and feeling exhausted and drained.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I can tell you, I was there for longer than I like to admit. I was living a life that didn’t feel good, and for so long, I didn’t know why.
Questions swirled in my head like:
What’s wrong with me?
We all experience dark days, I think the term “dark nights of the soul” describes it best. Those spaces in time filled with pain, challenge, heartbreak, grief, and fear. Periods in life when it feels almost impossible to find the light of possibility.
It’s during these days you may notice yourself constricting or closing off, your body and soul instinctively working to protect and conserve itself. These periods of time can be scary and overwhelming, even trick you into believing that you’re somehow failing and there’s something wrong with you. That you will never get to the other side.
The ability to be patient during dark nights of the soul is a vital component for growth and transformation. But, how do you have patience during a time when you want nothing more than time to move quickly?
The answer…Actively engage in the creation of patience.
Patience isn’t a passive activity, or something that just happens to you. Patience, like...
Take a second right now and think of something that you’ve longed for. Something you’ve wanted so badly it may have even hurt. It may have been simple like a hug or appreciation. Or it may have been more complex like a relationship or wealth.
Whatever it is, take a moment to feel into that memory.
I have noticed that most of the time, you long for things from a space of lack or worry. You’re centered in the “not having” and consumed by those feelings. You’re focused on what’s missing.
From this place you are helpless. Questioning your value and worth. Wondering if life has it out for you.
From this place you can only create more of what you don’t have, pulling you further from the things you really do want.
From this place you can feel hopeless, maybe even throw in the towel and give up on your dreams.
I’ve been there and I get it.
I’ve been there and I know there is another way.
You are the source of your reality and the...
Be honest, does this sound like you?
You’re balancing a million things and have little time for yourself.
You have a list a mile long of things you want to do, but no time to do them.
You focus so much on others you forget about yourself.
You’re exhausted and half the time can’t even remember why.
You have all these “important” responsibilities that prevent you from living a joyful and fulfilled life and the day you get to focus on you seems to be moving further away.
Sounds familiar, right?
I spent years filling my days with overwhelm and busyness, never having time sit down and focus on me. These ideas or inspirations would come to me and I'd quickly sweep them away, not having the time to pursue them. I felt stuck, and resigned myself to believe that I was just not meant to live a life I was truly excited and passionate about. After all, there wasn't enough time in a day to complete everything I needed to, plus take...
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...