Are you deeply and profoundly in love with you?
When we think about falling in love, we usually think about falling in love with another person. That human being who is going to be our partner and touch us deeply at the core of our very being. And it truly is magical when you think about it. The flirting, the anticipation, the curiosity, and the discovery. It’s absolutely one of the most amazing human experiences I can think of.
And… so is the experience of falling in love with you. Now, I don’t just mean liking yourself or thinking you’re ok enough. I mean, loving yourself so much that your heart swells with gratitude and appreciation for everything you are and everything you will be. Loving yourself down to the core of who you are, all of you, through to the depths of your soul.
Does this sound silly? Impossible? Am I just an idealist or a romantic? The answer is no, but I understand that you might not want to just take my word for it.
So, I have a...
Do you ever take time to reflect on your life?
When I look back and reflect on mine, the word that comes to my mind is, FULL.
I’ve lived a life full of laughter, joy, sadness, heartbreaks, disappointments, really bad decisions, really good decisions, awful mistakes, and huge lessons. I’ve found my way through impossible situations and overcome things I thought would break me down. I’ve picked myself back up (a few times), learned some really tough, but cool shit, and grown a lot more than I ever thought was possible.
I’ve felt things deeply and profoundly, in the only way my sensitive soul knows how.
For a long time, reflecting on my life was a fancy title for beating myself up. I’d look back and obsess over all the things that I could’ve done differently. My endless thoughts of “what if,” “if only,” and “how could I” played on repeat in my head. It wasn’t that I necessarily had regrets, more that I...
Confusion is defined by Dictionary.com as disorder; upheaval; tumult; chaos, lack of clearness or distinctness, perplexity, bewilderment.
If you’re breathing, you’ve been confused at one point or another. Perhaps about a relationship, your career, or even your life purpose. I’m also going to guess that being confused felt pretty uncomfortable and frustrating. I mean, take a look at the definition of confusion, who the heck wants to experience that, right?
Having this mindset and belief system about confusion can give you the sensation of being stuck. Feelings like chaos, lack of clarity, and bewilderment can be exhausting and hold you back. Confusion can leave you running around that never ending hamster wheel, spinning and spinning yet getting nowhere.
What if there was another way to look at confusion? What if you could flip your script and create an empowering belief about what it actually means to be confused?
What if you redefined what it means to...
When you’ve experienced a toxic relationship or gone through a difficult breakup, the thought of loving again can be frightening. After experiencing hurt, the idea of opening your heart and trusting another lover can feel like the equivalent of jumping off a cliff into a bottomless black hole. Doesn’t sound fun at all right?
As human beings though, we are creatures of connection. We thrive on being in partnership with other human beings and especially with a significant other. For most of us, it’s the ultimate human experience and denying this human impulse requires a tremendous amount of energy.
CAN YOU IMAGINE HOW MUCH ENERGY IT COSTS YOU TO ACTIVELY CLOSE YOUR HEART? TO BUILD WALLS AND SOMEHOW KEEP THEM FROM FALLING DOWN?
There’s a part of you that feels scared, and for some of you, it may be a huge part. But there’s also another part of you that longs to love again. That part craves it and knows it’s more than possible.
Can you imagine how...
As I work with women transitioning out of difficult relationships, I hear so many women talk about the pain…the way it tears through you like it is going to rip you apart. I remember going through the end of relationships where it hurt so badly it was a struggle to breathe. You wonder, how you’ll get through it and doubt that you'll make it through. You tell yourself there’s no way anyone can survive this amount of heartbreak.
The longer you sit in pain, the more it builds up. Suddenly, in your mind you are rewriting history. Remembering things as better than they really were. Questioning yourself, your feelings, your choices. Terrified to move forward because you question this as well. Before long you are frozen and have no idea which way to turn. Pain very quickly turns into suffering.
There is a quote that I love that says “pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” At some point, we all have to choose out of suffering, even if taking one step...
The power of love and showing up everyday through your challenges with Jennifer Butler.
In this episode we chat about:
- The power of loving yourself
- The power of accountability
- How to navigate challenges
HAVE YOU EVER LOST SOMEONE YOU LOVE?
Have you experienced a loss so painful, you couldn’t imagine how you’d get through the days?
Suddenly, they’re gone and you’re faced with a reality you never imagined.
HOW DO YOU CONTINUE AND HOW DO YOU SURVIVE?
Many of us have experienced profound loss. Whether through death, divorce, or someone walking out of your life. The aftermath of losing someone can be painful and traumatizing. It can rattle you to the core and knock you down. Make you afraid you’ll never be ok again.
The process of grief is messy, challenging and extremely frightening, leaving you to scramble for anything to make the pain go away.
I’ve been there. A few times actually. I’ve experienced losses that were unimaginable, inescapable and unrelenting. Pain that showed up everywhere I turned. In the smile from a stranger, a hug from a friend, songs on the radio, random words uttered in the midst of a thousand others.
Sonnet and Veronica interview Jennifer in this podcast episode titled, "Being Honest About How You're Showing Up in Relationships."
We chat about:
- Shifting your relationships.
- Leading with love and showing up how you want others to show up.
- How to open your heart when you’re frustrated with yourself and with others.
Are you afraid of change?
Would you rather be unhappy than have to face the unknown?
Making the choice to move into uncertainty can bring up a lot of thoughts and emotions. As you sit and consider the future, pictures swirl in your head of all the things that could go wrong and next thing you know, fears get triggered. So much so that you may even decide that changing things up really isn’t worth it. Maybe you can just make the best of what you’ve got.
You aren’t alone with this line of thinking. Most people would prefer to be unhappy in the comfort of their present circumstances, even if they aren’t fulfilled or happy. Safety and familiarity are very tempting and can lure you into a state of numbness. Stay here long enough and you may find it close to possible to move forward.
When you create a habit of facing the unknown with fear, you train yourself to equate change with anxiety and dread. You look for all the things that could go wrong and talk yourself...
Jennifer Hurvitz interviews Jennifer Butler in this lively and fun podcast titled "Access Your Internal Power and Create Better Relationships."
- How I found my passion for coaching.
- My divorce and how it changed my life.
- What Calling in “The One” coaching is all about.
- The only way to live is the way of your heart & your truth.
- Why writing is my creative outlet.