Living “AS IF”….Showing up every single day in alignment with the having of all that you desire, your intention for the future fulfilled.
One of the most important steps in creating the future you desire is to intentionally show up in your everyday life as if the future is in the here and now. Getting so clear not only about what that future looks like, but about who you are being inside of that future.
How you would feel.
How you would think.
How you would interact with others.
How you would engage with life.
Getting crystal clear about all of this and then showing up that way now.
It’s from this place that you are living in abundance and relishing in the experience of the journey. It is from this place that you are able to expand with joy and fulfillment. It is from this place that you can settle into knowing and trust as your journey unfolds.
Like everything else, living “AS IF” is a choice and it requires you to have the courage to be vulnerable...
Anger is real and anger is ok!
How many times have you been told that your anger is wrong?
How many times have you pushed down your anger?
How many times has it been suggested that your anger makes you crazy?
Anger is a real and powerful emotion that holds the energy of fire. Anger is a real and powerful emotion that provides you wisdom. Anger is a real and powerful emotion that must be acknowledged.
Maya Angelou's wisdom says it best...
"You should be angry. You must not be bitter. Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. It doesn’t do anything to the object of its displeasure. So use that anger. You write it. You paint it. You dance it. You march it. You vote it. You do everything about it. You talk it. Never stop talking it."
Anger has the power to motivate you to change.
Anger has the power to empower you to assert boundaries.
Anger has the power to encourage you to use your voice.
Anger expressed is simply another facet of the human experience that can bring you closer...
I am the source of my reality.
I use my voice.
I take up space.
I make my presence known.
It took me a very long time to own this as my truth. To trust in myself enough to know that it is up to me and only me to create my own safety in the world. To understand that I do not ever have to give anyone or anything this sort of power in my life.
And the result… freaking FREEDOM!
I can’t even tell you how much energy I put into staying small and trying to be invisible, thinking that was the best way to keep myself safe. Biting back my opinions, speaking with a softer tone, making sure I didn’t stand out. Blending.
I would notice it in conversations when I would use as few words as possible, in social settings when I would feel myself contract inward and silently observe, when I would ask so many questions about others and divert the topic away from me as soon as possible.
And then I would wonder why I felt so unseen and undervalued. Why I didn’t get noticed or feel...
One of the most empowering skills I’ve ever learned is the ability to choose the way I want to feel. For most of my life, I didn’t even know this was an option. I assumed that my emotions dictated my feelings and that I simply had no control over that.
I imagine myself being dragged around on a leash by my emotions, being pulled this way and that way, having no say in the direction I was going or what would come next. I remember putting so much stock in my emotions, believing them at every turn, and making some pretty big life decisions simply because I was feeling a certain way.
When you really think about it, our emotions are really all over the place. One moment we can feel one way and then with the blink of an eye, that emotion disappears and another one takes its place. A good deal of the time, we don’t even know why. Emotions are constantly coming and going, and if we follow them around blindly, eventually we may find ourselves standing in a place we...
I don’t know about you, but I denied my anger for far too long. Always believing that being angry, showing anger, was a sign of my weakness. An emotional fault of my female body that I needed to get under control. Something that would cause others to take me less seriously or even ridicule me.
The few times I remember showing my anger, I was greeted with patronizing comments, told to relax, grow up, and reminded that I was overreacting. Quickly hiding my anger back where nobody could see it, translating the reactions around me to mean that there was something wrong with me. Something I needed to get under control.
And, so I did. I controlled my anger, buried it deep inside and told myself I was becoming an evolved version of myself. Becoming the “cool girl” that was palpable to those around me. Eating up comments about how chill or easy I was to be around and reveling in how liked I was.
Over and over, selling myself out to this BS belief that my anger was wrong,...
I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose lately. Thinking about how so many of us struggle to find our purpose, know what our purpose is, and then to live into that purpose consistently. Struggle to know where to even begin.
When we aren’t connected to our purpose, we can feel lost, wandering without a destination. We can feel a sense of unease or even emptiness, unsure of what steps we are meant to be taking in our lives.
And of course, feeling this way can lead to feeling even more disconnected from ourselves and finding our way to that purpose.
As I’ve been thinking about purpose, I’ve been thinking about how massive a question it is. I mean, life purpose, think about that statement, it’s pretty huge. Why are we here? What are we meant to do? What is our very reason for even existing?
No wonder the quest for purpose can feel so overwhelming and so difficult in obtaining.
So, what if we were to see things from a different lens and consider a different...
Calling in a Love Partner after divorce.
“You are the only problem you will ever have, and you are the solution.” Bob Proctor
This is probably one of the most powerful statements of freedom I’ve ever heard. Ever! Every problem has a solution, and you have the ability and the power to access that solution within you. You don’t have to look outside of yourself, you don’t have to wait for something to happen, and you don’t have to rely on other people. This my friends is freedom!
Feeling stuck is a common experience and it gets talked about a lot. It can feel very uncomfortable to say the least. Frustrating, scary, and exhausting as well. The longer you feel stuck, well the worse it gets. Kinda like that hamster wheel you can’t jump off of. And like Mr. Proctor said to all of us, “you are the only problem you will ever have.”
5 ways you keep yourself “stuck:”
There’ve been many times in my life when I’ve felt stuck. I wish I could say these times were short and sweet, but honestly, most of the times I felt stuck were pretty long and frustrating. They were days filled with doubt and struggle, nights consumed by worry and uncertainty. The short of it, it didn’t feel good.
And, the worse it felt, the more stuck I seemed to get, creating this endless loop I couldn’t seem to jump off of.
Throughout these times, I would do all the “right” things. I would read the books, have energy healings, go to therapy, meditate. I mean, I could keep going here, but I think you get the idea. No matter what I did, I couldn’t find my way out and well, I started to think maybe there was just something wrong with me. Like maybe, I was meant to feel that way my entire life.
Who’s feeling me at this point? Have you been there too?
You follow all the advice, read the books, invest in the healing, yet you spend your...
What we talked about:
Calling in "the One"
Connecting with others from a space of abundance, rather than a space of wounding.
What the Calling in "the One" process looks like and how to remove blocks getting in your way.
False narratives that show up and hold us back.
Learning to fall in love with the process of personal growth work.
The toxic ties and labels we give things that prevent us from creating a new future.
Learning to be vulnerable
Setting a bold intention for the future!