HAVE YOU EVER LOST SOMEONE YOU LOVE?
Have you experienced a loss so painful, you couldn’t imagine how you’d get through the days?
Suddenly, they’re gone and you’re faced with a reality you never imagined.
HOW DO YOU CONTINUE AND HOW DO YOU SURVIVE?
Many of us have experienced profound loss. Whether through death, divorce, or someone walking out of your life. The aftermath of losing someone can be painful and traumatizing. It can rattle you to the core and knock you down. Make you afraid you’ll never be ok again.
The process of grief is messy, challenging and extremely frightening, leaving you to scramble for anything to make the pain go away.
I’ve been there. A few times actually. I’ve experienced losses that were unimaginable, inescapable and unrelenting. Pain that showed up everywhere I turned. In the smile from a stranger, a hug from a friend, songs on the radio, random words uttered in the midst of a thousand others.
Are you afraid of change?
Would you rather be unhappy than have to face the unknown?
Making the choice to move into uncertainty can bring up a lot of thoughts and emotions. As you sit and consider the future, pictures swirl in your head of all the things that could go wrong and next thing you know, fears get triggered. So much so that you may even decide that changing things up really isn’t worth it. Maybe you can just make the best of what you’ve got.
You aren’t alone with this line of thinking. Most people would prefer to be unhappy in the comfort of their present circumstances, even if they aren’t fulfilled or happy. Safety and familiarity are very tempting and can lure you into a state of numbness. Stay here long enough and you may find it close to possible to move forward.
When you create a habit of facing the unknown with fear, you train yourself to equate change with anxiety and dread. You look for all the things that could go wrong and talk yourself...
Listen to your heart, follow your intuition, what does your gut say? How many times have you heard these statements from others, from yourself? It sounds good, makes sense even, but when it comes down to it, you have no idea what your gut is telling you. You’re conflicted and struggling to make to decisions while multiple voices fight inside your head. Which voice is which and how do you even begin to know how to find the correct one?
I know you’ve been there…a big decision lies in front of you and the more you think about it, the more confused you get. It almost feels like you’re playing mind games with yourself, unable to decipher fear vs. wisdom. In your attempt at clarity, you end up feeling stuck and unsure what step to take to move forward.
Most likely, this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced this and it won’t be the last. The thing is, the longer you ignore your inner wisdom or abandon your true self, the harder it gets to...
YOU ARE WORTHY
I’ve noticed a lot of women struggle with the false belief of feeling unworthy.The underlying fear that you aren’t good enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you desire.
This belief gets played out in so many areas of life:
Staying in relationships where you aren’t valued or respected.
Putting everyone else’s needs above your own.
Not taking the time to practice self-care.
Over-working in jobs that rip apart your soul.
Holding back your truth.
Doing things you simply don’t want to be doing.
Long restless nights, incessant thoughts of everything you wish you could change, crying alone knowing you want more, and feeling exhausted and drained.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I can tell you, I was there for longer than I like to admit. I was living a life that didn’t feel good, and for so long, I didn’t know why.
Questions swirled in my head like:
What’s wrong with me?
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...