Living “AS IF”….Showing up every single day in alignment with the having of all that you desire, your intention for the future fulfilled.
One of the most important steps in creating the future you desire is to intentionally show up in your everyday life as if the future is in the here and now. Getting so clear not only about what that future looks like, but about who you are being inside of that future.
How you would feel.
How you would think.
How you would interact with others.
How you would engage with life.
Getting crystal clear about all of this and then showing up that way now.
It’s from this place that you are living in abundance and relishing in the experience of the journey. It is from this place that you are able to expand with joy and fulfillment. It is from this place that you can settle into knowing and trust as your journey unfolds.
Like everything else, living “AS IF” is a choice and it requires you to have the courage to be vulnerable...
I’ve been thinking a lot about purpose lately. Thinking about how so many of us struggle to find our purpose, know what our purpose is, and then to live into that purpose consistently. Struggle to know where to even begin.
When we aren’t connected to our purpose, we can feel lost, wandering without a destination. We can feel a sense of unease or even emptiness, unsure of what steps we are meant to be taking in our lives.
And of course, feeling this way can lead to feeling even more disconnected from ourselves and finding our way to that purpose.
As I’ve been thinking about purpose, I’ve been thinking about how massive a question it is. I mean, life purpose, think about that statement, it’s pretty huge. Why are we here? What are we meant to do? What is our very reason for even existing?
No wonder the quest for purpose can feel so overwhelming and so difficult in obtaining.
So, what if we were to see things from a different lens and consider a different...
Are you deeply and profoundly in love with you?
When we think about falling in love, we usually think about falling in love with another person. That human being who is going to be our partner and touch us deeply at the core of our very being. And it truly is magical when you think about it. The flirting, the anticipation, the curiosity, and the discovery. It’s absolutely one of the most amazing human experiences I can think of.
And… so is the experience of falling in love with you. Now, I don’t just mean liking yourself or thinking you’re ok enough. I mean, loving yourself so much that your heart swells with gratitude and appreciation for everything you are and everything you will be. Loving yourself down to the core of who you are, all of you, through to the depths of your soul.
Does this sound silly? Impossible? Am I just an idealist or a romantic? The answer is no, but I understand that you might not want to just take my word for it.
So, I have a...
HAVE YOU EVER LOST SOMEONE YOU LOVE?
Have you experienced a loss so painful, you couldn’t imagine how you’d get through the days?
Suddenly, they’re gone and you’re faced with a reality you never imagined.
HOW DO YOU CONTINUE AND HOW DO YOU SURVIVE?
Many of us have experienced profound loss. Whether through death, divorce, or someone walking out of your life. The aftermath of losing someone can be painful and traumatizing. It can rattle you to the core and knock you down. Make you afraid you’ll never be ok again.
The process of grief is messy, challenging and extremely frightening, leaving you to scramble for anything to make the pain go away.
I’ve been there. A few times actually. I’ve experienced losses that were unimaginable, inescapable and unrelenting. Pain that showed up everywhere I turned. In the smile from a stranger, a hug from a friend, songs on the radio, random words uttered in the midst of a thousand others.
Are you afraid of change?
Would you rather be unhappy than have to face the unknown?
Making the choice to move into uncertainty can bring up a lot of thoughts and emotions. As you sit and consider the future, pictures swirl in your head of all the things that could go wrong and next thing you know, fears get triggered. So much so that you may even decide that changing things up really isn’t worth it. Maybe you can just make the best of what you’ve got.
You aren’t alone with this line of thinking. Most people would prefer to be unhappy in the comfort of their present circumstances, even if they aren’t fulfilled or happy. Safety and familiarity are very tempting and can lure you into a state of numbness. Stay here long enough and you may find it close to possible to move forward.
When you create a habit of facing the unknown with fear, you train yourself to equate change with anxiety and dread. You look for all the things that could go wrong and talk yourself...
Listen to your heart, follow your intuition, what does your gut say? How many times have you heard these statements from others, from yourself? It sounds good, makes sense even, but when it comes down to it, you have no idea what your gut is telling you. You’re conflicted and struggling to make to decisions while multiple voices fight inside your head. Which voice is which and how do you even begin to know how to find the correct one?
I know you’ve been there…a big decision lies in front of you and the more you think about it, the more confused you get. It almost feels like you’re playing mind games with yourself, unable to decipher fear vs. wisdom. In your attempt at clarity, you end up feeling stuck and unsure what step to take to move forward.
Most likely, this isn’t the first time you’ve experienced this and it won’t be the last. The thing is, the longer you ignore your inner wisdom or abandon your true self, the harder it gets to...
YOU ARE WORTHY
I’ve noticed a lot of women struggle with the false belief of feeling unworthy.The underlying fear that you aren’t good enough, and therefore not worthy of the things you desire.
This belief gets played out in so many areas of life:
Staying in relationships where you aren’t valued or respected.
Putting everyone else’s needs above your own.
Not taking the time to practice self-care.
Over-working in jobs that rip apart your soul.
Holding back your truth.
Doing things you simply don’t want to be doing.
Long restless nights, incessant thoughts of everything you wish you could change, crying alone knowing you want more, and feeling exhausted and drained.
Does any of this sound familiar?
I can tell you, I was there for longer than I like to admit. I was living a life that didn’t feel good, and for so long, I didn’t know why.
Questions swirled in my head like:
What’s wrong with me?
WHY DO YOU PRESSURE YOURSELF TO BE PERFECT?
Why do you work so hard to hide your imperfections, even when it costs you so much?
I speak to so many women who feel like they have to constantly be on. They feel pressured to look as though they have it all together at all times. Not only does everything need to run smoothly, but they also feel they have to look and act a certain way in order to feel accepted and loved. Their time gets spent worrying about things that don’t truly matter to them, caught up in a way of living that they now can’t seem to break away from.
Can you relate? I know I sure as heck can!
I spent way too much time worrying about being perfect. Looking like I had it all together, had it all handled, and never made mistakes.
OMG I would want to crawl in a hole if anyone knew I made a mistake!
Somehow, I thought that all of this mattered and I wasted a lot of time being someone I am not. I disconnected from myself, pushed people away, and got...